AHEART #24 | Help With Screaming & Speech Delays

Do you need help with the screaming of your speech delayed child?  I get it, Friend. Boy, do I get it.

Years of my son’s horrific, ear-piercing, ice-cube on a nerve, never-ending screaming nearly killed me.  And it took me way too long to understand that his screaming was related to a severe speech delay.  It was brutal. Trying to discipline his screaming out of him using traditional parenting approaches was likely the one of my biggest mistakes.


Screaming Child? Is There A Speech Delay?

Allow me to save you and your child some of the heartache and stress that we went through.

In this week’s episode of the podcast, I speak to this issue in order to support a sweet Mom from AHFAS Private Community.

She asked,


My son screams bloody-murder to get our attention. He interrupts constantly. What do I do?

Speech Delays, Screaming Kids & Sensory Needs

So in this episode, I share a bit of our story with my own son. Girl, I get it!  And I’m offering my insight and support for moms navigating the child who’s constantly screaming. Let’s talk about:

1 – Speech & language processing & delays
2 – Sensory processing as a whole,
3 – ADHD (including Adult ADHD)
4 – How to guide our kids (and ourselves) through some of the toughest moments.

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Screaming & Interrupting Kids: Behavior Is Information

Remember, Friend, behavior is information. Together, we mommas can rally together and support our kids with tools and strategies they need to thrive.

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Podcast Audio Text

Hey, friends, in today’s episode, I am going to answer another question from A Heart For All Students, Mama Tribe member Melanie.

Now, Melanie asked me, “Hey, Lindsay, my three year old is constantly interrupting and screaming all the time to get our attention. It’s driving our family crazy. What do I do?”

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Key Ideas And Concepts About Screaming, Interruptions and Speech Delays

A sweet momma friend asked me this question:

“Do you have any ideas for a three year old learning to be quiet while others are talking?”

Some of our kids, when they’re learning how to speak, struggle terrible with filtering out outside noises and sensory input.


ADHD, Too Much Attention & Sensory Processing Needs

ADHD is not a lack of attention. It’s actually the brain is on overdrive and they have too much attention.

All five senses, plus my vestibular and proprioceptive systems, all of my senses are receiving information.

But what happens is, is that the brain cannot filter through all of that information.

I have ADHD, but I also have a fully developed prefrontal cortex. I’ve learned how to use my executive functioning skills over time.

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Support Sensory Processing & Speech Delays

However, your son, is learning and he’s trying so hard to process language in his mind. When somebody else is talking, even if it’s in another room, he’s overwhelmed with all of the input.

Our brains only have so much cognitive fuel. And when kids have speech delays or trouble articulating language, it takes that much more cognitive fuel to procduce language.

He’s about to lose his mind because he so desperately wants to get out his thoughts. In those moments when your child has a meltdown and begins screaming, he’s reached his limit.


Screaming Kids Need Help

Our job as moms is to equip our kids with the tools and support they need in order to take the next step. Whether with speech and language, behaviors or academics.

In the case of your son, we’re going to help him learn to speak. Let’s help him develop the pathways that makes it easier for him to speak.

First time you drove a car, you were aware of everything. OK, that’s what’s happening right now with his speech.


How To Stop My Child From Screaming?

1. Change The Environment By Scaffolding

Put him in an environment where he is able to really practice just getting his thoughts out without the disruption. It’s almost like you’re scaffolding.

Scaffolding is a term that is used by educators to describe offering supports to a student as they are learning a new skill. This is essential any time you’re teaching a new skill.

2. Focus On The Goal Of Effective Communication

Think about baby step number one as learning to communicate.

In other words, we focus on supporting your child to articulate thoughts. Focusing on your son’s ability to produce the speech sounds that send the messages he is trying to communicate. That’s a step up.

Since he can’t filter out any other information, he needs that support. And as that becomes easier, you can slowly add more distractions.

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How Do I Stop A Child From Screaming For No Reason?

There’s always a reason Behind The Behavior, Friend. Find the root issue, and then you can best support your child with the tools and strategies they need to thrive.

To learn more, continue listening to the entire episode.


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  • [02:07] Melanie Asks..
  • [03:12] Our Story
  • [04:13] Brain Receiving Information
  • [05:45] Brain And Cognitive Energy
  • [07:18] Set Him Up For Success
  • [08:14] Like Your Scaffolding

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2 thoughts on “AHEART #24 | Help With Screaming & Speech Delays”

  1. Also it is possible that he thinks that everyone struggles through the same noisy world he does so to cut through the noise he would scream.

    I thought of dyspraxia and apraxia [verbal and motor varieties].

    I like the way the mother phrased it as “learning to be quiet while others are talking”.

    When others are talking it’s an interruption to him and his processing and awareness.

    • Your insight into various speech and motor issues is spot on. The cool thing is that these outward behaviors are really clues as to what’s going on inside. Whether it be a diagnosable speech and language issue or an internal struggle with feeling alone, when we start to look behind the behaviors, we find clues to move forward. 🙂


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